Source: Xinhua - Sina
one end of the year, the unit began in turmoil, liquidation, inventory, audit, inspection has become the first major event, Jinggang, change jobs, promotion, salary increase, cuts to the Office of the events hh completely disrupted the harmony, Office sudden change in the soap opera unhurried startling step into the house of scheming!
do not tell me that you now can stroll, who kept it?
results bad? bad karma? occupy all envy, jealousy, hate a good position? at the moment you are in the various waves of ants, such as a wok, playing tricks, snitch? not in the Analects, and may not be effective . or see the waves used to lay bare the secret workplace psychology expert, pointing pointing to the end of your career the most to the force protection strategy.
3 can not make a mistake at the end of the leadership
there was such a love that mantra: ground do not fight, do not play lazy, specifically to fight not long eye! to be awkward when Dajiadoumang around, Ms. Liu served as the financial work of the LG has a chance to go to Europe, you can bring families a rare opportunity ah! Liu weighed half a day, or find a homogeneous director of leave. Liu of So dare to leave, there is a reason, she has been the mainstay of the department, working ability, outstanding performance, usually very dependent on her director Qi, Qi total absence of the basic departments hosted by her. Qi, director of the Liu appreciate, Privately, two people have a good friendship, so when you leave Liu, Qi always consider what is promised.
However, Liu went to Europe in two weeks after dashing back to the company but found the atmosphere not , before she could understand the whole situation has changed profoundly: All my colleagues have been upgraded, while the rise in most reason she was in situ does not move, she was responsible for many of the items had been transferred to other men are, so in fact, she also drop post it! Xingaoqiao Liu felt too lose face, to pique his resignation, and has a strong cry, she was a wronged!
companies out what happens in the end? just left the original Liu, financial Division of a problem, the higher unit raided, as Liu does not grasp the situation, there is a clear inspection loopholes caused losses to the unit, Qi, director of leadership has also been criticism of a large, homogeneous overall very angry that the whole is the fault of Ms. Liu, the general view of Qi, Liu did not directly open out, enough already to face.
workplace unspoken rules
CASE 1
the trash when good leadership and Gallery
In fact, each end of the year, not the ordinary people the most stressful, but middle-level leadership, mid-level work of the previous year should have led to large account, but also take into account the lower the interest of the department, for the sake of the team staff, is in the trash and treasure chest. leadership is people, after reading the great leaders of the black face also need to spit, complain, pitching junk, then you just need patience to listen to it. Note that you, though your heart toward his immediate leadership , but do not arbitrarily invent great leadership backs! Also, at this time but also reflect the professional quality of your time, depending on your experience and ability, to lead out of ideas, support Weapon, what information to collect points, and very necessary !
CASE 2
do not hang out in the little things!
Mr. Zhao has been working hard in peacetime, but because of travel, busy there are other reasons, there is a reimbursement of money already in September to the newspaper , but once onto the end of the year, no longer claims to set aside, Mr. Zhao quickly found a leader. But always have faith in his leadership, has become familiar with them.
leaders one by one more check, get a long time Mr. Zhao is very unhappy, thought to himself: found a number a little exhausted and out, but fortunately only a small number. after Mr. Zhao unpleasant to think: in fact, sometimes before convenience for reimbursement, simply to keep the change will be rounded, can be leaders are they not aware that this is how today a? few days later, Mr. Zhao was removed inquire into the original because of poor performance by the end of some of the items staff to shrink, Mr. Zhao has also laid off the list of departments, under the leadership of the pigtail Zhengchou not catch it! Mr. Zhao has a good sense of self, suddenly find themselves at risk!
Coincidentally, Kobayashi just jump to a state-owned private company, he feels uncomfortable, such as office supplies actually brought a need for department heads and the logistics person in charge of the signature of two . to the more surprised Logistics Kobayashi, originally received only a pen and a notebook, how do enough? then lead also signed more trouble ah! fist in the state-owned enterprises can not adapt to Kobayashi, he asked sentence:
reimbursement to low-level errors as early as possible, by the end of the chain of company funds is the most intense, if coupled with poor performance, but why pick this time to report the amount of a fee is not low, too lacking in vision to see children out! will naturally lead to the leadership of the offensive. If they catch up with the leaders could not find the reasons for layoffs, this is not exactly their own hands pigtail fingertips.
many young people feel Datailielie playing with the units of private long-distance telephone, Internet play games, or get some little thing is not a thing, but once discovered to be led, it is easy to lead a negative impression, definitely not worth the wait.
CASE 4
Do not criticize others!
Dr. Peter was studied in the U.S., in foreign countries also have work experience, highly educated with high ability, so many companies competing to recruit him to become a hot talent. choose something, Peter entered a well-known state-owned enterprises, it is envisaged that they can make a big one field. But after a while, he should fold Zaoleng Yu, reduced to almost nothing in the unit. This is his 30 years of experience in life has never had, and made him self-confidence has always been very crash!
the original, Peter though capable, there is a fatal weakness, that is, speak too straight! when he saw someone else's problem, every time bluntly pointed out that under the case, on the same level, even the leadership is also true ! under the criticism of the leadership will naturally prompt correction, the same level of staff may not think so, and that Peter is a pushy, likes to belittle others to raise their own. Although Peter was right all right, also according to his colleagues in the same level reminders to improve, but inside are very dissatisfied with great views privately to Peter.
been advised to Peter, why so mercilessly that others problems? can but feel that Peter is not a problem, before him abroad to study, work, problems are so directly pointed out that the professor was, Boss so admires him too! was pointed out that different conditions, different corporate cultures, but He was not more like.
Peter in the unit bad karma, someone give him a snitch, Peter did not feel, until one day, he did not even dare to point out that the leadership issue, the results hh
comments workplace unspoken rules is to be tactful
colleagues or subordinates, whether , negative views should be carefully made in front of everyone's face said openly that it is not appropriate, to save some face each other it is a must! Therefore, positive assessment of certain public that the negative private communication, this is the most important principles. Do not be too direct, otherwise it will seem arrogant, when you point out other people's problems, in fact, be able to help each other, is good intentions, but the attitude of too directly, the consequences are exactly the opposite. the other party even if accepted, the heart also will not be comfortable, and will not gratitude for your kindness, so you have to express your concern, and then state your opinion politely, rather than simply point out the problem. the end of time, we are easy to nervousness, not free that someone else's problem.
Peter also made a mistake by adding the beginning of a new unit, the most important is not the ability to highlight how their extraordinary, but the first integration into the collective, so that we can accept you, then is to gradually expose their talent and too anxious to express themselves, the result will be resentment and others were wary.
FOCUS CPI hurricane I want to raise anxiety
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there is such a classic piece: , the Gas Company. qualifications with a raise, but nearly 5 percent of people in a state of hesitation, and fear to find the boss about a raise, 3 adults taking into account the company's environment, we simply hope that the pay rise, only to find there is an adult leadership made a real plus pay request.
FOCUS promotion anxiety depression struck
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end of the year, finally received the letter of appointment to new posts, ha ha, promoted it! a change in job content, but can I let the boss satisfied? I can adapt to new jobs? How the disposal of so many men, how to take a multitude of things work? worried about the anxiety was very easy to suffer from the so-called Or do you always focus on the work wholeheartedly, but into middle age, they found themselves slim promotion, the boss is really senseless ah! you are bound to feel empty and resent extremely difficult to distraction! so very easy to suffer from .
FOCUS anxiety
mediocrity year under review:
Pentium III women friends, life is a piece of paper! Pentium III men friends, career, or a piece of paper! each end of the year, worry One of the things written summary of what has always been effortless usually write, but not several eloquent articles? However, when the pen only to find and Akira gone! , most of my colleagues have similar feelings.
FOCUS
end of the year award in the end could get much anxiety:
a tamper Jay sing thermal network: you do not give / say yes / end of the year award? I recognize the / understand / give up / goodbye; only bank credit card debt cycle with / paid to how it experienced a financial crisis hh
and slow recovery, also encountered increasingly strong inflation. this br> Great Tencent network has been statistics, users accounted for 31.04%. Only 25.45% of users predict the end of the year award this year should be better than last year.
for enterprises in the survey, nearly 5 percent of companies made it clear that ;, but in the end of the year comes to awards issued to employees, more than 5 percent of business executives still said that the release plan > FOCUS jump and not jump is a problem
anxiety:
Shige jumped, jumped the line of duty, the better to watch them all the more mixed, but he still nest in the office where a small staff, in addition to leisure, money , the house did not mix up! how to do? the end of job-hopping? dry out by his own wisdom is not there is a different world? But, wait a minute, do not jump in the pit!
end of the year, the company again for those of us bottom staff the various departments to do a big shake-up, was sent to the new boss's men, the old clients are distributed to other people, mind suddenly very afraid: that will not be taking advantage of this opportunity to put the old staff Instead of such a did not move into the new there is no intention to quit.
career Benbo you do?
only know how to work hard, dry silly, but always get the attention led to the end of the year is with a raise for him, feeling every year is futile! you're the kind of typical workplace Benbo. To not stupid dry, we should understand the the uncertainty of the future to worry about. In fact, the change brought about a crisis sometimes, and sometimes brings the opportunity. The key is what we look on change.
Therefore, when the changes hit the workplace, some were still able to focus attention on their own, calmly accept the change and continue to rationally deal with the problem, while the other one would be particularly anxious and helpless. which easily influenced by others, always to look on the four weeks , habits of self from the outside world to seek approval, so once that insecurity, they stumble and do little tricks. Their response is always irrational, like the escape.
Do not be anxious control, or you lack of experience will be like a competition, like the athletes to make deformation motions, such as not appropriate to the Latin American relations, but to the leadership of a negative impression.
CASE 1
much it is dry, dry white!
from name Mark has always maintained that the school should be able to say things by the school to see results in the unit to see results. So in the unit work, the hard-working, rather when the workaholic, never bothered to make love flattering speculators. in the department, Mark out the name of the hard work more than one, some people will complain incessantly, Mark was taking on everything, he said: dedication to help, not everything he knows, personal resources are also willing to share with colleagues.
relations with colleagues, but Mark of iron, with the leadership of very distant. Chinese New Year, see the leadership gifts to colleagues, Mark was very disdain . at the end of the company party, led many of my colleagues to find a toast, wish list, Mark is sit tight as Tarzan, colleagues quipped: a long time, Mark also felt the imbalance. promoted no copies, no copies of pay is always accompanied by the owner junket talkative colleagues go into action, with the leadership of a meal is always ignored. Mark not mind the taste: Why am I such a talent, but lack of appreciation of the leadership? not appreciated by horses, Mark quit in anger, but in the new unit, he found that the situation is not changed.
hard work silently in the workplace There may only end up with dry white end. in the workplace, not all the work you put one bag of everyone to receive your feelings, instead people will think you are robbed credit, like alone, lack of team spirit, so ; hard to do better than smart to do. the relationship between leadership, emotional intelligence is not high at least show that you, after all, manage the relationship between themselves and leading an important way to improve work efficiency.
CASE 2
better off not too tired half to death!
Alice childhood that goes to education by parents grow up: No pain no gain; listen to the teacher at school, listening to the leadership of the unit; to be independent, do not always trouble to others. But in the workplace after many years, Alice was found simply not the case.
proportional pay and harvest? That is nonsense! Alice in company sales, working continuously for ten hours a day, overload, the boss will never say . day and the boss of the exchange to be limited to MSN, the boss usually assign tasks, and then Alice obediently replied . Alice's ideas or from old concepts: the good people of course have the ability to work independently, if the leadership is the imperial edict, a problem also ;. often worried to death, but desperately carry their own, and sometimes even anxiety and could not sleep at night, but the final problem solving, to the boss, just an easy OK.
understand is that Alice, the boss often praise The are those who love to ask become the boss's eyes hard, practical good employees, and Alice is not been the boss that the workload of the saturation, so continue to operate like a machine. bitter experience, Alice found: or crying child Naichi!
workplace Many people often mistake is: obviously very hard, but the boss can not see. So, smart work and the boss, also. such as the timely reporting to appropriate not only let the boss know you're doing, but also keep abreast of the boss's thinking, to avoid the risk, leaving the boss know your dedication and efforts in one.
some work with a certain degree of difficulty, do not think you can solve not consult or inform the leadership, if only some of the difficulty of this issue, leading can solve, it is better to ask about the leadership, but it is also a chance to lead a display can also show respect for your leadership. also knows, leadership really give you better advice.
how to get along with the leadership ?
for those who defeated the workplace, leadership as unreasonable of monsters, can not close. the truth of course is not so! and leadership communication, the following two concerns can discourage you.
and cold market leader talk how to do? < br> do not know how, see a short circuit leading to the brain, speaking prevarication, in addition to echoing ideas have come to the Zhao Waguo! fact, this is because you care too much about leadership. too concerned with others, others will perceive. for leaders You do not calculated to appeal to all like a natural. The more you peace of mind, others will have more peace of mind. As a leader, a few will feel slow? you do not escape the tension in the eyes of the leadership.
cold if and leadership in the field of communication words, there is no need to blame, why subordinates responsible for the cold field? Meihuazhaohua is tension in the transmission. tense state, thought is suppressed, only more difficult to make conversation. In fact, language is limited , as non-verbal attitude will affect each other. If you are too nervous to be aware of each other to feel unwelcome, then got the message to leave. so you just relax like. ease and peace of mind is like a powerful gas field, able to surround you, but also surrounded each other.
how to get the leadership of the problem?
make you unhappy things happen, you would like to urge the leadership of charging into the office, so sensible? If charging into the big BOSS office, not so polite, and very likely to welcome. If you are in small business, then no problem, you can request directly to the supervisor, to conduct a more equitable exchange. if it is in large enterprises, or to follow the procedures go. This is a strategy which, you have to let each other know you are not for personal grievances, but to the common interests of the team.
see the leadership, you have to show that you not bring difficulties, but is the solution. If it is hoped that promotion, we should introduce their achievements, so that the leaders to redefine your work. You may feel embarrassed, this is normal, tell the leader that the other party will usually respect you, deliberately Hide the contrary, making you look stupid.
end emotional farewell with a brush
look back to 2010 are fading, what do you think? will be ways to say goodbye to this memorable year? psychological experts recommend is to take from the brush, free graffiti: blue, pink, green hh roses, carnations, cacti hh fluffy bunny, roar of the tiger, free dolphin hh these pictures can help you find yourself in, sort out the emotional confusion, to meet better the coming year.
emotional color
If you use color to describe their emotional year primary colors, which you will use several colors, or what? red, yellow, blue, gray, black or white ? or other colors you think?
Overall, those warm colors such as red, yellow, green, orange represents a positive mood, the cool colors such as blue, black, gray represents negative emotions. The more intense the color , represents the more intense emotions.
little reminder: If the color is too strong, to the shocking extent, even warm, but also that there are some can continue for some time, but if sustained for too long, not necessarily a good thing. such as strong red, may represent too busy or too optimistic, or irritable mood. All of the color is the signal.
emotional plant < br> If you had one year with a plant to describe your main emotions, what kind of plants would you use? is a flowering tree? or a green? or a cactus? or other you think plants?
Usually, the trees that bear fruit represents the healthy growth and harvest.
one big one with those blossoms, the fruit of a limited number of people who represent themselves, usually targeted, but also quite good harvest people.
more but smaller young by those who represent their own fruit, usually rewarding, but people scattered in every aspect.
flowering plants used to describe their main emotion, representing a mood bloom, representing good and confident.
flowering plant with leaves no mood to describe their main man, representing a year of flat growth while, emotional stable, no major ups and downs.
those cactus plants to describe his main emotions of people, representing the emotional suffering, the poor living environment and adhere to.
emotional animals
an animal if you use to describe your main emotional year , which animal would you use? Hedgehog? rabbit? eagle? tiger? dolphins?
often used to describe his main emotions hedgehog who may encounter difficulties in relationships, representing the emotional conflict and contradiction as Lord.
usually described his main emotions rabbit who will be upset, anxiety, fear-based emotions.
usually described his main emotions Hawks who will be comfortable, slightly detached at the same time mainly with the emotional loneliness.
usually described his main emotions Tiger who will be serious, calm and lonely mood-based.
usually described his main emotions dolphins who will be comfortable , mainly pleasant emotions.
remove emotions and emotional events
If you can remove some emotions over the past year, what kind of mood you delete? this sentiment, and a specific event or a individuals associated with you?
emotions for those who wish to be removed, in fact, the mood is very meaningful. All the things happened, have no way to delete it. With the Those unwilling to face the face of things. The more I think the mood is removed, the more our hearts the knot. anyway to delete can not afford, as it drying in the sun to see if it will transform into why, sometimes magic occurred. some sense; some the percentage of emotional
happy if you give your emotions a percentage of total time, what percentage would you give? 70%? 50%? or 30%? or only 10%?
give 70% people, congratulations you! have such a happy year! proportion of the world with not many people like, so you are a lucky dog. Think about what your secret is, the people around it and share. Such sharing will let you have more fun next year.
give 50% of the people, congratulations! half the time, which are in the happy. You are a lucky dog. believe that a happy mood so you learned a lot .
give 30% of the people, one third of the time you can enjoy the pleasure brought mellow mood. If you sell you can create a more pleasant environment, your world will have changed considerably. < br> 10% of people give you more than anyone else get the feeling from those pleasant nourishment. maybe 50% of your life or more, are made in the 10% of the care, support, self-satisfied, self-affirmation and self-esteem brought about.
emotional curve
If you abscissa in months to pleasant and unpleasant emotions as the vertical axis, the month marked a year on your mood point, then these points together into a line, you will have a kind of emotional curve?
some people will have a natural to spend a lot on energy in the mood to calm down.
Some people have a straight line. If you are in a more pleasant quadrant, it should be very good; If you are in unpleasant quadrant, would be low spirits.
and some are in walking uphill, farther and comfortable, getting better and better mood.
and some are in decline, further and further down, emotions, depression, anxiety.
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sharing emotions
When you answer these questions, if you can find to share with you people? you can find a few willing to listen to you to share, willing to share with you people?
if you can find willing to hear you say, but also willing to talk to you people, and not only one, congratulations! a trust, will have to share. a share, there will be social support. This is our mental health safety net. < br> If you can only find someone willing to hear you say, but can not find people willing to say to you, also very good, but you need to reflect on their own: if your friends think you're trustworthy?
If you are only willing to listen to others, but do not want to share with others, this is an option, but why trust in others so difficult for you?
If you can not find anyone to listen to you, tell you that this is your way of doing things. But, you really do not want to share? you really, really enjoy the moment of this state do?
emotions all over the new departure
review, just to show us our own the location of emotional compass. and see the moment, is to allow emotion to re-sail boat in 2011. a warm review will bring a new turn.
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